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Its always hard coming back. 

you know nothing, jon snow.

I do know some things.

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The mind can be a great escape and a great tool, but also an even greater prison. Time to go back.

A Game of Oh Shits

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1. Accept and let go.

Accept your life as it is now. It doesn’t matter how many or what kind of challenges you are facing. See them as opportunities for growth. This way there is no point in feeling bad about them anymore. They are here to help you.

Accept yourself as you are now. You may have flaws, you may have made mistakes that have contributed to the situation you are in now, but that is not important. Let go of your past and forgive yourself. All that counts is what you do in this moment!

Let go of your fears, stress, and frustrations toward this situation and the people involved, even if you think someone else is to blame for your situation. Feeling anger or hatred toward this person will only (negatively) affect yourself.

How do you accept and let go of things? With a simple exercise called meditation. After four years of daily meditation I can vouch for the fact that it is a very effective tool for getting rid of stress, negativity, frustration, and anything else that is not serving you. Learning to meditate is the biggest gift you can give yourself.

2. Observe and decide.

Observe the situation without letting your emotions take over. You are now able to analyze the situation by just looking at the facts. (This is a lot easier than it sounds when you have a regular meditation practice.)

Decide what the best approach is for this situation and create a plan of action.

3. Face your fears and take action.

Tackling your challenges usually includes facing one or more fears. You can try to avoid facing your fears, but at some point they will circle back into your life and you’ll have to face them again. You can ignore fear, but you can’t escape it.

Learn to be courageous and deal with it once and for all. Being courageous doesn’t mean you become fearless. Everybody experiences fear. It’s just that courageous people are the ones who are brave enough to constantly face their fears.

On YouTube there is a Will Smith interview in which he states: “If something frightens me, I have to do it. I will not let it control me!”

Taking action is the most important step in this whole process. It is also the step where most people get stuck. But by creating the right mindset this becomes a lot easier. Because the emotions that usually frighten you and maybe even paralyze you will no longer have any effect on you, or the effect will be greatly reduced.

4. Practice gratitude.

You may label problems as such because dealing with them takes you out of your comfort zone. Dealing with them in the correct manner means you are growing as a person. So, learn to be grateful for the challenges in your life, because they make you stronger.

portraitsofboston: “My mother liked the oldest of three brothers. They all went to school together and knew each other. Her parents were very strict and protective of her, and they wouldn’t allow her to meet him unless she had a chaperone with her. So, the youngest brother—my father—became the chaperone. He was also the least successful of the three. He would take her out, entertain her, accompany her to his older brother’s job at the end of the day, and then leave the two of them alone. One day the oldest brother proposed to her, but she told him that she had already grown very fond of his younger brother, because she had been spending so much time with him. And they got married and had a wonderful marriage, even though their lives were very difficult, with many struggle and challenges… When my father passed away my mother was almost 80, and first the oldest brother and then the younger one asked her to marry them, but she declined each time. She didn’t want to move to the Midwest, but more importantly, I think she felt that one attachment in a lifetime is enough… She was a wonderful, wonderful woman! And everybody loved her. She had a very ethereal quality to her. Have you seen The Wizard of Oz? She was the Good Witch…I am getting teary eyed…I think I have a bit of her in me. I am wrapped in a cocoon of unreality. I am not fully convinced that I am going to die.” View high resolution

portraitsofboston:

“My mother liked the oldest of three brothers. They all went to school together and knew each other. Her parents were very strict and protective of her, and they wouldn’t allow her to meet him unless she had a chaperone with her. So, the youngest brother—my father—became the chaperone. He was also the least successful of the three. He would take her out, entertain her, accompany her to his older brother’s job at the end of the day, and then leave the two of them alone. One day the oldest brother proposed to her, but she told him that she had already grown very fond of his younger brother, because she had been spending so much time with him. And they got married and had a wonderful marriage, even though their lives were very difficult, with many struggle and challenges…

When my father passed away my mother was almost 80, and first the oldest brother and then the younger one asked her to marry them, but she declined each time. She didn’t want to move to the Midwest, but more importantly, I think she felt that one attachment in a lifetime is enough…

She was a wonderful, wonderful woman! And everybody loved her. She had a very ethereal quality to her. Have you seen The Wizard of Oz? She was the Good Witch…I am getting teary eyed…I think I have a bit of her in me. I am wrapped in a cocoon of unreality. I am not fully convinced that I am going to die.”

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I begin today by loving and accepting every part of myself, inside and out, exactly as I am.
LOUISE L. HAY

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portraitsofboston: “I think that sometimes it’s better to be alone and learn to be independent, especially when you’re very young. Teenagers often think that you have be in a relationship, you have to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. While relationships and friendships can be great, I’ve often been disappointed by them. There was a point in my life when my parents were going through a divorce, and I was learning that relationships, no matter how strong they seem, don’t always last. It probably doesn’t apply to most people, but for me it was important to learn to be alone and depend on myself to make me happy rather than other people.” View high resolution

portraitsofboston:

“I think that sometimes it’s better to be alone and learn to be independent, especially when you’re very young. Teenagers often think that you have be in a relationship, you have to have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. While relationships and friendships can be great, I’ve often been disappointed by them. There was a point in my life when my parents were going through a divorce, and I was learning that relationships, no matter how strong they seem, don’t always last. It probably doesn’t apply to most people, but for me it was important to learn to be alone and depend on myself to make me happy rather than other people.”

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thefrogman:

By Keely [tumblr]

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